October 26, 2012

You’re Officially a Parent When…

Filed under: life, Uncategorized — Tags: , , — yalandarose @ 11:03 am


Your child repeatedly awakens you to answer questions, and with the exception of peeking one eye open for “suspicious” inquiries, you can answer each one without interrupting your sleep.

September 13, 2012

What are we sick of?

Filed under: health, life — Tags: , , — yalandarose @ 10:53 am

Maybe it’s just a trend in my neighborhood.  But has anyone noticed that clinics are popping up over town like retail stores?

Like new fast-food chains, it’s just a matter of days before the parking lots are full.

The advertisements could double for generic promotions of new tire lube services or fast-food joints:  “new convenient location, fast, friendly service.”  Doctors have display ads in the Sunday paper.

Are we really that sick?

The #1 killer in this country is heart disease.  However, 2 of the top 10 slots for best-selling medications are anti-psychotic drugs. With all of these new clinic grand-openings, why aren’t we treating what’s wrong?

Could it be that we are dying from a broken heart?

August 24, 2011

Get Straight Hair Naturally

Filed under: life — Tags: , , — yalandarose @ 3:34 pm

Always wanted natural hair without it looking well – natural? Here’s my hair recipe if you are tired of relaxing your hair.

1 – bottle of organic, all natural shampoo (I am currently using Shea Moisture a brand I picked up from Target)

1 – bottle of organic, all natural conditioner (optional, as I am not currently using a conditioner at this time)

1 – blowdryer (mine is 1800 watts, because I have patience issues when it comes to drying my thick hair)

1 – detangling wet comb (I am currently using Conair for thick and curly hair)

1 – Tourmaline ceramic flatiron

Notice, other than the optional ingredient of hair conditioner, my recipe does not call for hair moisturizers of any kind, including but not limited to hair pomades, lotion or oil sheen, and I have been a regular user of these products for decades.  That is because organic shampoos and conditioners do not contain sulfates or parabens a.k.a. detergents that strip the natural moisture from ethnic hair.

Step 1 –  Lather your hair at least twice with the organic, all natural shampoo.  If you have allowed enough of your new growth to show or enough time to lapse between hair relaxers, you will notice the natural texture of your hair probably for the first time. I learned recently I have wavy hair.

Step 2 – Follow the directions for the organic, all natural conditioner (I plan to try it soon)

Step 3 – Comb through your wet, newly discovered hair texture with your detangling comb (I would recommend Goody brand, but my thick hair has broken a couple of combs Goody labeled unbreakable) Notice how manageable your wet hair is using the right comb

Step 4 – Plug up your tourmaline ceramic flat iron. (It takes about 10 minutes to get hot depending on the brand)

Step 5 – Blow dry your hair as usual (minus the now needless products you used to use)

Step 6 – Part your hair in small sections and flat iron from root to ends. Bump your hair under if you want a curl.

Step 7 – Repeat this process at least once weekly.

Step 8 – Step out and get noticed!

Sidenote – I have not had a relaxer in over two years, so I now have virgin hair. I always wanted to go natural as I have been labeled “tender-headed.” I  got tired of the chemical burns, and not being able to scratch my hair for days prior to a relaxer for fear of being burned and afraid of it getting wet for fear of it “reverting”, but it was all nonsense. However, I didn’t think the kinky or locked look was for me. So after 2 years of experimenting with hot combs and research, I found what worked for me and hopefully it will work for you too. I knew I was doing something right when my acquaintances couldn’t believe I had no chemicals in my hair to straighten it. Free your hair from the chemicals and the nonsense associated with it and finally, truly relax.

*The shampoo I use is ethically traded.

July 11, 2011


Filed under: life — Tags: , , , — yalandarose @ 1:51 pm

My husband’s biggest fantasies involved me awakening him with sexy underwear. Well this morning, he got his wish.

“Whose bra is this?” He heard me ask angrily as he was blinded by the nylon and straps of the brassiere I threw in his face.

“What?” he responded tossing the bra aside as if he was being stripped teased.

“I said whose bra is this?” I demanded again grabbing the brassiere he tossed aside, dangling the cups in his face like a used jockstrap.

“Yours?” He responded not sure if he was answering a trick question.

“It’s not mine because I don’t wear this size, and I don’t like this style!”

“Well, I don’t know. Maybe it’s for your mom.” He suggested as he was dozing back off dismissing me in his dreams.

I was infuriated. Even after being confronted with evidence of adultery, my husband never attempted to get out of bed to save his marriage!

“Why would my mom’s bra be in my underwear drawer… and if it is, you’re a sicko!”

“Well, I don’t know what to tell you.” My husband said as he rolled over on his stomach, turning his back to me.

Realizing I was late for work, I continued getting dressed with the underwear and clothes I recognized, making a mental note to search every drawer – mine and his – for more underwear and clothes I didn’t.

During the commute, while I was consumed with thoughts of adultery, child custody, visitation and divorce, I was trying to remember when my husband would have the opportunity to defile our bed and become incensed at the nerve of the homewrecker he slept with to toss her underwear in my drawer. Was she trying to hide it in haste as he slipped her out of the back door? Or was she deliberately marking her territory confident I would leave once found? None of the scenarios were making sense as I thought we had a pretty solid marriage. I replayed my husband’s nonchalant responses in my mind. “Yours?” he responded earlier. With a 30-minute commute ahead of me, I had time to logically contemplate his answers. Why would I even wear a homely bra like that to begin with, especially a size bigger?

I knew why. I was sitting at the red light, when the light bulb went off in my mind. I wore a bigger bra while I was nursing our daughter. It looks like I may have some explaining to do.

June 20, 2011

Saudi Women Driving into the 21st Century

Filed under: life — Tags: , , — yalandarose @ 1:57 pm

Between the daily work commute, running errands and shuttling children, most average women of driving age have undoubtedly at some point fantasized of hiring a driver to do all of the above.

However in Saudi Arabia, the fantasy of being chauffeured around is a living reality or according to a growing number of Saudi women a daily nightmare – especially when the unthinkable happens – such as a medical emergency left in the hands of a strange male driver.

Saudi Arabia is the only country in the world that does not allow women the right to drive. Although this is news to those of us around the globe, apparently this is old news in Saudi Arabia. According to Saudi’s deputy prime minister, female driving has never been legal but it was officially declared illegal in the 1990’s through a set of religious decrees.

Though as of yet there are is no legislation banning female drivers, the penalties for violating this religious code include the loss of jobs, travel privileges, imprisonment and public condemnation. Flogging has also been advocated to teach those in violation “a lesson” .

Considering a recent study that shows that male drivers are 77 times more likely to die in car accidents than females, forcing Saudi women to put their lives in the hands of a male behind the wheel can also statistically be a death sentence.

Although the driving ban was publicized less than 20 years ago, Saudi women such as Wajeha al-Huwaidar and Manal al-Sherif, believe that it’s time for Saudi Arabian women to drive into the 21st century as their posted clips of them driving demonstrate.

Al-Huwaidar and al-Sherif are not a pair of inspiring soccer moms willing to partake in what is considered more of a chore than a right for women worldwide (although that would come with the territory), al-Huwaidar is a women’s rights activist and al-Sherif is an IT expert .

Keeping in tune with the 21st century and the speed of a sports car, Saudi women have taken their protests to various social media outlets and blogs rather than picketing in the streets. June 17th has been declared as the day that Saudi women “start” driving with guidelines blogged for peaceful demonstrations. .

The Saudi government asserts that the religious ban was enacted as a form of protection to prevent Saudi women from interacting with strange men.

However, many Saudi women perceive the religious ban as a form of humiliation as it forces them to interact with strange men on the way to work, school and medical care while risking their safety or sexual harassment.

The government’s form of protection can actually endanger women’s lives and their livelihood cited al-Sherif’s Facebook page, “Teach me how to drive so I can protect myself” which at one point had been removed.

It can also create a financial hardship on a working-class Saudi family who may not be able to afford $300-400 a month for a live-in driver.

Justifying her protest, al-Sharif stated that not all Saudi women are “queens” who can afford the expense of a driver. However, as this story and ongoing protests develop, it will be interesting to determine if the Saudi government or the Saudi women will have the final ruling.

Article first published as Saudi Women Driving into the 21st Century on Technorati.

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