September 12, 2012

When Push Comes to Shove

Filed under: children, Christianity, Faith, God's Love — Tags: , , — yalandarose @ 3:29 pm

She had every reason to be confused, even hurt.  My daughter wasn’t doing anything wrong. She hadn’t pitched a fit or thrown a tantrum.  She was actually behaving extremely well. But I could tell by her eyes  what her mouth hadn’t formed the words to say, Why did I push her?

Shoved more like it, when she didn’t do anything to deserve it. No explanation, no warning, just a push causing her to stumble forward.

No, I hadn’t blown my top, I wasn’t in a hurry, so why did I seemingly punish her with no provocation, her eyes kept asking me.

To protect her.

One thing I do know about my daughter is her irrational fear of bugs and all things creepy crawly. One thing she was not aware of, was that there was a huge one on the other side of the door big enough to induce shock.

Since I was ahead of her, I was aware of the critter that would have frozen my daughter in her tracks preventing her from taking another step. So I gave her a swift push.

Though she stumbled, she landed safely. It was at the safety of our vehicle that I addressed the confusion in her eyes and tended to her bruised  – ego.

While not getting too descriptive, I informed her of the bug that was now behind her, and she then understood that the push was to protect her.


July 30, 2012

Happy Ending

Filed under: Christian living, Faith, God's Love — Tags: , , — yalandarose @ 4:40 pm

 I want to read, she wants to play is an incessant conflict between my daughter and I, not at the park or playground but over my laptop.  The laptop may as well be coin-operated because the minute I log on my time is fleeting.  I can usually buy more time by finding things for my daughter to do:  clean your room, take your bath, brush your teeth.

My daughter can buy more time by whining, demanding, and begging away my concentration, which is why I abruptly walked away from an essay I was reading before my patience and simultaneous computer time ran out.

She then wasted no time claiming her position in front of the monitor.

However, instead of moving the cursor up to her favorite game site, she scrolled down.

For a tot not yet in Kindergarten, I wondered how long the thousands of foreign words would hold her interest as she continued to scroll.

I watched as she purposefully stared at the screen as if she was looking for something substantial to take away from the article – other than my time.

She was still scrolling.

She stopped intermittently during her literary stroll of the essay to enjoy the view of a handful of clip art.

She then reached the end of her stroll and found whatever it was she was looking for- not at the end of the essay but at the very bottom of the webpage.

A smiley face.

Although the purpose of her search wasn’t clear to me, and I’m sure it wasn’t clear to her either, she kept going. Though at times she paused to enjoy the view, she found what she was looking for – a happy ending.

July 24, 2012

For giving.

Filed under: Christianity, Faith, God's Love — Tags: , , , , , — yalandarose @ 8:09 am

As a parent, there are a lot of things I teach my daughter about life.  As a child, there are a lot of things she teaches me about love.

I have to own up to some of my wrongs against her:

  • false accusation (I was just sure she made another mess)
  • losing my temper and/or patience (don’t worry, I always find it)
  • inflicting pain (I honestly didn’t see her when I turned around)

When I consider what I owe my daughter for my wrongs, all I can do is apologize.

Her response?  “That’s OK mommy, I just love you.” (I could go on and on about how wonderful of a mom she says I am, but I guess it’s unnecessary to mention it here:)

Lesson learned? My daughter has forgiven my debts as God Has Forgiven mine.

Thankfully, God Loves us both too.

June 25, 2012

Collective Prayer

Filed under: child abuse, children, God's Love — Tags: , , — yalandarose @ 1:36 pm

Please pray for the 10-year old malnourished girl locked in the closet.  May God Have Mercy on her.


March 15, 2012

Persecuting Pastors?

Filed under: Christianity, God's Love, religion, tolerance — Tags: , , — yalandarose @ 4:33 pm

“An East African gay advocacy group alleges a Massachusetts evangelist has waged a decade-long campaign to persecute gays in Uganda” (USA Today)

The words evangelist and persecute are in the wrong order in this sentence. The Bible says that Christians are supposed to prepare to be persecuted for our faith, and count it all joy. (James 1:2)

However, there are too many instances of Christians persecuting everyone else (including each other at times) and being called judgmental, hypocritical nutcases.

Christians should master the 2 greatest commandments (Matthew 22:36-40) before taking another step in their walk with Christ.

If all Christians became united on just these 2 commandments alone and put this at the forefront of our minds, there would be no incidents of “Christians” attacking homosexuals or each other for that matter, and maybe homosexuals and anyone else living in the midst of sin could discern the truth for themselves.

January 19, 2012

Doesn’t Pay to Listen

Filed under: God's Love, religious humor, tolerance — Tags: , , — yalandarose @ 5:54 pm

I just read a helpful blog, “The Secret to Not Caring What Other People Think.”  If I may humbly add what seems to be a secret to most inconfident people is:

My Father’s House is bigger than yours!

And I agree with the blogger it doesn’t pay to eavesdrop (Ecclesiastes 7:21): “Also, do not take seriously all words which are spoken, so that you will not hear your servant cursing you.” (Ecclesiastes 7:21)

January 18, 2012

Defrauded? Suits Me!

Filed under: Christianity, Faith, God's Love, religion — Tags: , , , — yalandarose @ 4:25 pm

…Why not rather be wronged? Why not rather be defrauded? 1 Cor. 6:7

The simple answer:  Who wants to be vulnerable, had, taken advantage of, walked on, stepped on, etc. etc. etc. especially in a society where we have rights and we judicially, litigiously and at times unmercifully enforce them.

The hard to swallow answer: It’s not about you.

I saw this verse as I was contemplating a lawsuit against my ex-husband. He initiated a quickie divorce against me so he could marry a woman I didn’t even know existed until after they were married.

The front door of our former home had become a revolving door when I moved out and she moved in less than a year later.

Concurring with the simple answer, I filed a lawsuit before she finished unpacking.

It seemed as if I had everything to gain – a house and half the assets. However, during our separation, I decided to quit focusing on my broken marriage, and start focusing on God’s Kingdom and His Righteousness first. With God’s Kingdom – an entire kingdom – at the forefront of my mind, suddenly a 2500sqft. house seemed quaint.

I also realized that if my ex-husband was willing to stoop that low to keep the house, he has already received his reward in full. (Reference Luke 6:24)

I started evaluating the real reason I filed the lawsuit in the first place. I wanted revenge, what was owed to me. But…I had to remind myself of my new commitment. Instead of seeking revenge, I committed myself to seeking God’s Kingdom and His Righteousness first. Vengeance is not mine, it, us, the universe, and everything in it is His. It’s not about me. It wasn’t my battle to fight. (Reference 1 Samuel 17:47) As a matter of fact, God Reminds us Whose battle it really is more than once in the Bible.

In fact, instead of me giving my ex-husband a piece of my mind, God Instructed, “The LORD Will Fight for you while you keep silent.” Exodus 14:14. It’s not about me at all.

The contents of my legal petition should have floored my ex-husband as I was when I learned that a man who couldn’t pay child support for his biological child was now providing room and board for a child that wasn’t even his. Yep, his stepson was now living in my daughter’s old room.

I couldn’t get over how unfair God seemed that my ex-husband and his new family seemed so happy and comfortable while my daughter and I were financially struggling. But, God Reminded me, “Do not be deceived, God is not mocked; for whatever a man sows, this he will also reap. 8 For the one who sows to his own flesh will from the flesh reap corruption, but the one who sows to the Spirit will from the Spirit reap eternal life. (Gal. 6: 7-8.)

Then, I realized that they won’t be comfortable in that spacious house for long as God Said, “He who returns evil for good, evil will not depart from his house. Proverbs 17:13

And as far as my less than pleasant financial situation is concerned, “Better is a poor man who walks in his integrity than he who is perverse inspeech and is a fool. Proverbs 19:1

Besides, no matter how dire our situation gets, “The LORD Will Not Allow the [b]righteous to hunger…” Proverbs 10:3.

I was requesting spousal support, child support, and half of the assets. I was not going to tolerate a deadbeat dad. However, I realized God Loathes deadbeat parents as well. “But if anyone does not provide for his own, and especially for those of his household, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever.” 1 Cor. 6:7

That verse made me realize that my ex-husband wasn’t merely robbing his child, he was robbing God. What may floor you is that he is a minister.

Another reason I started having second thoughts about the lawsuit is because again I was reminded that “…whoever takes away what is yours, do not demand it back.” Luke 6:30

Then I remembered my new commitment, “But seek first His kingdom and His righteousness, and all these things will be added to you.” Matthew 6:33

Only by the Grace of God, my daughter and I aren’t starving or naked! (reference Matthew 6:25-31)

While I was focusing on a house I can see (within a short commute), I was reminded that by faith I should be focusing on what I can’t see and what God Has In Store for me.  “while we look not at the things which are seen, but at the things which are not seen; for the things which are seen are temporal, but the things which are not seen are eternal.  Hebrews 4:18

Going through the emotional and financial toil of a lawsuit would cause me to sin in worry and would be taking time away from my life and my daughter. (reference Matthew 6:27) The details of the lawsuit were also causing me to be anxious about my situation when I should have invested that time praying. (Reference Philippians 4:6)

With all the worrying and anxiety of a lawsuit, I came across the verse, “for God is not a God of confusion but of peace…1 Corinthians 14:33.

I decided to refer to the Bible to see how God Really Wanted me to deal with my ex-husband. Referencing Matthew 18:15-17, if I couldn’t resolve the matter in the church, treat the person like a tax collector. I am personally not acquainted with any tax collectors, and am no longer acquainted with my ex-husband either. In other words, don’t try to reason with the insane. Just accept the fact they are spiritually (and sometimes mentally) ill.

I was also told to “bless those who curse you, pray for those who revile or mistreat you.” Luke 6:28

I know this sounds crazy but the reason I have been able to do this is because even though my ex-husband took the house and neglected to support his child, hey, at least he didn’t try to kill me!  I was merely duped out of a house and money. However, even while Stephen was being murdered by a group of people who clearly didn’t know God, he prayed “…Lord, do not hold this sin against them!” Acts 7:60

My ex-husband is oblivious to the fact that he has done anything wrong, and  those crucifying Jesus were ignorant to the fact that they were crucifying the actual Son of God and for that Jesus said “…Father, forgive them; for they do not know what they are doing” (Luke 23:34) before Jesus inherited the Kingdom.

Bible verses came from Biblegateway.com NASB version

January 17, 2012

Trampled Pearls

Filed under: Christian living, Christianity, Faith, God's Love — Tags: , , — yalandarose @ 8:59 pm

The scripture, “”Do not give what is holy to dogs, and do not throw your pearls before swine, or they will trample them under their feet, and turn and tear you to pieces,” (Matthew 7:6 NASB) is advice I personally and painfully accepted.

It took me some time to discern when God Was Talking to me.  It hasn’t been as obvious as a burning bush or the Heavens opening, but I do become spiritually seasick when He Disapproves with my decisions. I get overcome with an uneasy feeling in my stomach as “unsettled as a wave of the sea,” James 1:6 NASB.

So, when I received my first marriage proposal after only a few weeks of dating, I wasn’t elated, I was well, seasick. It took one year of dating and finally living together before I finally accepted. But I still never recovered from the seasickness. Deep down, I knew I wasn’t making the right decision. However, I felt as if getting married had to better than shacking up, right?

Wrong.  I should have walked away.

Between my husband’s chronic unemployment and our constant moving to chase jobs, I was miserable. Eventually, I made him miserable, too. With the constant arguments, his infidelities, financial stress, job and residential changes, there was never any peace in our marriage. More than once, I have arrived home from work only to learn that he was fired that day, and arrive home the following week to learn that we were moving by the next. It was almost as if he thrived in chaos.

I kept telling him we needed to settle down, and after the baby was born, I began insisting we needed to settle down – all to no avail. Eventually, I was began to realize I could no longer deal with the confusion and could no longer raise our child in the midst of it either.

Lacking just one digit of the mark of the beast, we averaged six states in six years.  Subsequently, finding homes – residential and spiritual – had become something I had grown weary of. During the last year of our marriage, I was now homesick. After deciding that I was moving back to my hometown, I embarked once again on finding a lasting church home. While in Bible study, I came across the verse, “For God is not a God of disorder but of peace.” 1 Corinthians14:33 NASB.

I realized throughout all of the confusion, God had never ordained our marriage, and I no longer had one, so I walked away.

I am still devastated that I have taken the sacred vow of marriage and given it to a “dog.” After the ordeal, I was left with a trampled self-esteem and near financial ruin as supporting him tore my credit to pieces.

However, God Punishes those He Loves (Hebrews 12:6 NASB), and boy, have I learned a lesson!
But as my daughter turns another year today, I realize, everything does work for good for those who love the Lord (Romans 8:28 NASB).

November 9, 2011

Don’t Forget Your Fruit!

Filed under: Christian living, Christianity, God's Love, religion — Tags: , , — yalandarose @ 3:41 pm

On a diet? Try these fruits! …the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control…Gal. 5:22-23 NASB

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